Saturday, June 2, 2018


So we moved a month ago. And i do have pictures on our phone and so unfortunately 
i do not have any pictures on this computer.  Thanks to my brother - he's awesome.... 
he is so awesome to let me use his computer every now and then and as i need to. As we do not have a computer at home! I appreciate my family and love them so much. 

Thanks Jared!!! 

Anyhow we have moved to midvale, Utah and also only a couple of blocks away from my brother Jared & my nephew DakotaAnyhow we have moved to midvale, Utah and also only a couple of blocks away from my brother Jared & my nephew Dakota We also are in the same ward (LDS) as them. How cool is that ???
We also are in the same ward (LDS) as them.  How cool is that ???

We live in a awesome apartment complex - Just off of State Street! 
It's called the Remington Apartments - It's a nice and quiet and great community and complex! 
We just love it!!! so far everything is great. 

We wouldn't have it any other way !!!! we are so happy to have our very first home and place together. Can't wait to see what adventures and journey this takes us. And what comes our way.

Anxiety & Depression.... YES I HAVE IT!!!

So yeah I have anxiety and depression... I do not know if alot of you know but, I DO!!! 

here is info i found on LDS.ORG

Anxiety and Anxiety Disorders

By Lyle J. Burrup
LDS Family Services
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It’s normal to feel anxious, but anxiety disorders can interfere with a person’s life. The better we understand these disorders, the better we can help each other.
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Imagine that a member of the bishopric telephones two ward members to ask them to say the opening and closing prayers in sacramentmeeting. Both members feel nervous. One has butterflies in their stomach about saying the prayer but thinks through what to say and goes through with it. The other has an overwhelming sense of dread accompanied by an elevated heart rate and hyperventilation and does not go to church that Sunday. One feels relief at being able to do something difficult. The other has other similar panic episodes over the next few months out of fear of being called on to pray and avoids going to church for quite a while.
This contrast highlights the fundamental difference between most people’s experience of anxiety and the experiences of people with anxiety disorders.

Different Experiences

Anxiety is a normal human emotion. Everyone experiences it. It is part of the “opposition in all things,” without which there would be no “happiness nor misery, neither sense nor insensibility” (2 Nephi 2:11).1 As such, this emotion serves us well. It is part of our emotional alarm system. It motivates us to prepare for important events. It causes us to protect ourselves when we feel threatened. It enhances performance. It helps us make thoughtful decisions, solve problems, and prepare for challenges. It reveals what we care about.
On the other hand, there are also anxiety disorders. These interfere with our alarm system and its many benefits and are characterized by persistent, overwhelming, uncontrollable anxiety that impedes normal functioning. They include social anxiety; phobias; panic attacks; repetitive, intrusive, objectionable thoughts, impulses, and images; and are often accompanied by a host of physical symptoms and extreme avoidance behavior.
Many among us suffer from such disorders. Therefore, it’s important that we understand these disorders so that we can offer appropriate support and help.

How Anxiety Disorders Develop

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In addition to extreme avoidance of anxiety-filled situations, several human traits come together in a “perfect storm” to create debilitating anxiety: biological vulnerability to anxiety, coupled with stress; worry; distorted perception and thinking; perfectionism; excessive niceness; and unresolved regrets.

Biological Vulnerability to Anxiety, Coupled with Excessive Stress

We inherit from our parents our physical and emotional makeup, including vulnerability to certain illnesses. Just as some families are vulnerable to high blood pressure or diabetes, some are also vulnerable to certain emotional disorders.
Vulnerability by itself will not cause an anxiety disorder. However, when it is coupled with long-term, unresolved stress, a person may develop such a disorder. Understanding this can help us know, for instance, that some people may need to take medication to manage body chemistry when they have high levels of constant anxiety.

Excessive Worry

Worry comes when we feel we are highly vulnerable to some threat and also feel we have little power to do anything about it. Like anxiety, worry can be very helpful. However, when it is excessive, persistent, and unchecked over a long period of time, it can evolve into an anxiety disorder.

Distorted Perception and Thinking

People who suffer from anxiety disorders have distorted perceptions and thoughts. Perception begins with what we experience through our five senses and then includes the meaning we give to our experience. This filtered perception accumulates over time. However, it is often false when not guided by the truth.
Anxiety disorders distort thinking. For instance, fear that a dog might bite you could be very rational in a given situation. However, thinking that you should not go outside because a dog might attack you is irrational.
A theory that counselors use to teach people how to change distorted perception and thinking states that our emotions are the result of events and experiences filtered through how we perceive and think. The simple formula of this theory is A+B=C: The key to our emotions (C) is perception (B) of an event (A) rather than the event itself. We know this because two people can experience the same thing but feel very differently about it.
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If you can replace irrational thoughts and beliefs with more rational, comforting ones, your anxiety will drop and become more normal.

Excessive Perfectionism

Perfectionism can be functional and helpful when used as a tool to improve and grow. However, two common irrational beliefs that create anxiety are “People will look down on me if I make a mistake” and “I’m less worthwhile when I fail.” These beliefs limit our use of mistakes to teach us (see Ether 12:27D&C 1:25, 27) and ignore the fact that we have great worth as sons and daughters of God (see D&C 18:10).
Unhealthy perfectionism causes people to hold themselves to standards they don’t hold others to. It causes procrastination. It takes the joy out of trying new things. For example, if people’s friends invite them to go bowling, they may fear what their friends will think if they bowl poorly. Of course, they themselves would not look down on friends who bowl poorly, but they do not see how irrational their thinking has become.
The Lord commanded us to be perfect (see Matthew 5:48), but He also said that if we draw close to Him, He will show us our weakness (see Ether 12:27). There appears to be a conflict between these two concepts unless you understand that perfection (completeness, wholeness) is an eternal condition that comes through the Savior’s Atonement “on conditions of repentance” (Alma 42:13). We don’t make ourselves perfect; Jesus Christ does. We just do our best and keep repenting when we fall short, relying on His grace to make weak things strong.
If we don’t resolve the distorted thinking common to perfectionism, we become the slaves rather than the masters of our high standards, and we become vulnerable to extreme anxiety.

Sunday, September 10, 2017

The Fuel We Need to Power Our Lives

Loneliness, worry, apathy, and uncertainty are just some of the feelings that accompany the challenges of the human experienceĆ¢€”things like struggling children, natural disasters, suicide, questions about God, and providing for the needs of a family.
They are challenges bigger than us, bigger than the advice we can get from the best books. Bigger than the assistance we can get from people and programs. They are the obstacles for which God promised, "Ask, and it shall be given you; seek, and ye shall find; knock, and it shall be opened unto you" (Matthew 7:7).